Rediscovering his charm in ADHD! The secret to enjoying life together

Understanding and dealing with ADHD's characteristics

What are the basic features of ADHD?

　ADHD (attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder) is a developmental disorder that mainly exhibits three characteristics: carelessness, hyperactivity, and impulsivity. It also affects adults, and can sometimes experience challenges in daily life and relationships. Carelessness can prevent you from completing things, or you may forget important promises. On the other hand, hyperactivity and impulsivity seem energetic and actionable, but they also sometimes move things on a whim. Understand that these characteristics are not based on the person's negligence or pampering, but rather on the functioning of the brain.

When does he feel difficult?

　What makes him having ADHD has difficulty is that his traits are particularly apparent when he is tired or under severe stress. For example, it can be difficult to manage your time and become late for dates, or you can get confused when trying to complete complex tasks. Additionally, it tends to be difficult to respond flexibly to changes in plans, and you may be troubled by the resulting relationship problems. For him, it is important to not overlook the situations that make him feel "it's really tough!" and provide solid support.

Thinking to know when supporting

　When supporting him, it is important to understand and accept the "characteristics of ADHD" more than anything else. If you try to force yourself to fix it or push it to general standards, both him and you will be stressed. Instead, it is effective to support and expand the range of places where he can utilize his strengths and strengths. For example, by working together to manage schedules and acknowledging his creativity, you can build a healthy relationship. Furthermore, creating an environment where each other can talk calmly will lead to happiness for each other.

What is the appeal of ADHD guy?

Creativity and a unique perspective

　With ADHD characteristics, he has a unique perspective that is not bound by the general framework. Without being bound by stereotypes, his talent is fully demonstrated, especially when he comes up with new ideas. The appeal of this site is that you can find interesting perspectives even from the smallest events of everyday life, and brings a little surprise and excitement to the time you spend together. You may feel like, "It's really tough!", but being able to share this unique perspective is a great treasure in deepening your relationship.

Energetic behavior and positivity

　His actions are very energetic and can be pulled by his positive energy. Even when he is tired or in difficult situations, the brightness and positive attitude he has will have a significant impact on his surroundings. Of course, there are times when the use of his energy can cause waves, but even so, his underlying positivity adds color to his relationships and daily life. As we spend time together, this vitality will broaden our new horizons.

A novel approach to problem solving

　With ADHD characteristics, he tends to take a novel approach in problem solving. Sometimes we find solutions that are unconventional and yet effective, rather than the general method. This attitude leads to unlock new possibilities that everyone has never tried when faced with worries or difficulties. Even if you make a suggestion that is unexpected, you can end up with a snug fit. These characteristics will be a major strength not only in everyday life, but also in considering the long futures of the two.

Communication techniques to deepen relationships between two people

How to properly express your feelings

　When it comes to relationships with your boyfriend with ADHD, it is important to clearly communicate your feelings and thoughts. Due to their nature, their attention tends to be distracted, and there may be times when it is difficult to convey their intentions. Therefore, make sure to choose specific and simple words and organize what you say before expressing them. For example, if you say something in a short request format, such as "I want you to do ○○", it will be easier for him to understand. Also, while not only conveying things straight, avoiding critical expressions and speaking in a positive tone is a trick to maintaining a good relationship.

Specific steps to prevent collisions

　To prevent conflict, it is essential to understand his actions caused by his ADHD traits as "personality" and to respond flexibly. When fatigue or stress is applied, ADHD characteristics can become more prone to appear, so before you feel that it's really tough, choose a time when you can talk calmly. Furthermore, to avoid getting emotional, when discussing, focus on one topic and come to a conclusion within a short period of time. Furthermore, if he makes impulsive remarks or actions, he does not immediately criticizes him and asks him what kind of feelings he feels behind it will help prevent conflicts.

How to deal with emotional situations

　When faced with an emotional situation, it is important to be calm first. Boyfriends with ADHD may have a lot of emotional ups and downs, but if they get emotional in such situations, the story can get tricky. If you feel confused or panic, encourage deep breaths or suggest that you stay away and have time to calm down. Also, you may be stressed about his emotional reactions, so it is important not to forget to take a self-care attitude of "responding to yourself first and then respond." To overcome an emotional situation, being patient and affectionate is the key to strengthening the relationship of trust between two people.

Ingenuity and daily practice to make each other happy

Accumulating small success experiences

　As you spend your days with him with ADHD, you may experience difficulties caused by his traits. However, among these, accumulating "small success experiences" is extremely effective. For example, it is recommended to make it a habit to clearly split the tasks he is working on, and to praise the effort when he is able to achieve them. Express your visible results in words, such as, "You came again today without being late for your date" or "You did everything you had planned." This will deepen his own self-confidence and create a positive cycle.

How to spend your daily life using his specialty

　He has ADHD and can demonstrate high abilities in a particular situation or field. In order to make use of his traits, try to create a daily life that actively incorporates things he is good at and things he can enjoy. For example, it's a good idea to work together on hobbies and projects that require his creative ideas and imagination. Furthermore, if you are good at activities that offer a high degree of freedom such as chatting and design rather than specific tasks, you can try incorporating them into your relaxing time. By sharing a fun space with each other, your relationships will naturally become richer.

The importance of self-care as a partner

　There is another important point in living in dealing with the characteristics of ADHD. It is to never miss out on your own "self-care" as a partner. When you're tired or stressed, it's essential to have time to settle your mind and body. Be consciously incorporate habits that will make you feel refreshed, such as walking, reading, or relaxing at a cafe. In order to make your time with your ADHD boyfriend more fulfilling, having your own emotional liberty will be a great support. Even in situations where you feel like it's really tough, finding a way to care for you is the key to leading your relationship to something even better.

Shokey Hayashi

Exorcist/Radionics Technique Researcher

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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965, he has been suffering from troubles, illnesses and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena since childhood. However, one day, when he was 20 years old, he attended an event, had a mysterious experience at the venue, and was hit by lightning energy from the heavens, as if piercing the spinal cord from his brain, and his psychic abilities blossomed. He then began studying psychology and psychiatry, and now he has combined psychiatry and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics exorcism" using our own radionics techniques. "It's possible to treat your fortune" beyond exorcism, memorial service, and healing.