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For those of you who can't forget your ex-boyfriend - To find a new light after the rain in your heart

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"I can't forget that person..."

"I can't forget that person..."

Looking up at the night sky, memories of the past sparkle like stars, and I sighed softly in my heart. For those of you who are spending such days. A heartbreaking pain that slowly spreads deep into my chest. It may be a delicate scar left behind by past love.

Her feelings for her ex-boyfriend are beautiful and fleeting, just like a rainbow after the rain. You are never the only one who is captivated by that rainbow and trapped in the past. But just as it doesn't last forever, the rain in my heart will definitely come to a halt. And after the rain, new light shines through the clear sky.

We would like to think together gently, politely, and snuggle together so that you can overcome the rain in your heart and find a new light.

Why are we trapped in past love?

First of all, why are we so trapped in love from the past? It's not because you're weak. Our minds have the ability to cherish past events, especially events that have had a major emotional impact, like treasures. The memories of fun, the moments of excitement, and the sadness and loneliness of parting... these things have firmly rooted in the depths of our hearts and are not easily gone away.

In particular, memories with your ex-boyfriend may often appear sparkling. This is because memories from the past are more likely to be glorified over time. What was painful or didn't go well before you knew it, and only the moments you enjoyed will brighten up like a gem. Furthermore, we tend to inevitably care about "unfinished" things.

"If I had done this at the time..." "Maybe I could start over again..." Such feelings of regret and regret are a major factor in becoming trapped in past love. Also, if your ex-boyfriend was part of your life, it can be difficult to fill in the big holes in your heart, and it can be difficult to escape from a sense of loneliness and loss. You may have lost confidence, thinking, "I can't meet such a wonderful person anymore."

In this way, there are various reasons why people are trapped in past love.

Oguri

I remember my ex-boyfriend and look back on the past, so I have to move forward.

Signs of being trapped in past love

If you are in the following situations, it may be a sign that you are trapped in a past love.

I frequently check my ex-boyfriend's social media.

I often dream about my ex-boyfriend.・When I see someone similar in town, I get excited.・I can't be proactive in meeting new people.・No matter what I'm doing, I suddenly start thinking about my ex-boyfriend. I can't throw away my past memories.・I often look back at the past by saying, "What if that time was..."

I don't have confidence in myself now.

Even when I date someone else, I still compare myself to my ex-boyfriend.・I can't wish for happiness to my ex-boyfriend. If you have any idea about these signs, stop for a moment and face your own mind.

Pon

I'm a girl with a lot of love, I have so many sparkly memories of my ex-boyfriend, and I'm always frustrated with him now, Mayu is a no-go girl

A gentle step that will stop the rain in your heart

In order to get out of being trapped in past love, you need to gradually stop the rain in your heart. Don't rush, move slowly and at your own pace.

Step 1: Meekly face the past

First, try to gently face your past love. Instead of trying to force yourself to forget, start by acknowledging its existence.

Cherishing "fun memories"

There must have been many happy memories of past love. There is no need to deny those memories. Keep it gently in your heart as an important treasure. Remember the feelings you felt when you had fun and remember the happiness you felt at the time.

I look calmly at the reason for "breaking up"

Let's take a calm look at why the two ended up breaking up. Instead of getting emotional, you may find new realizations by analyzing objectively. Perhaps there was a gap between the two of them that they simply couldn't fill.

Organize your regrets

You may have regrets about your past choices. But the past cannot be changed. It is important to transform your feelings of regret into a source of energy for your future life. Not only will you regret it, but you will also be able to grow by learning from it.

Spit out "emotions"

Don't hold back, try to let out the feelings that are piled up deep inside your heart, such as sadness, loneliness, anger. It's also a good idea to write it down in a notebook, have someone you trust listen to, or cry and feel refreshed. By not suppressing your emotions and releasing them properly, you will feel lighter.

Donbei

When I faced my past, I felt like I wanted to get back together with my ex-boyfriend. Is Jun a bad child?

Step 2: Say goodbye to the past

Once you've faced the past, now you can start preparing to say goodbye to the past.

Keep physical distance

First of all, it is important to keep a physical distance from your ex-boyfriend. Unfollow social media, delete contacts, and prevent your ex-boyfriend from coming in. Take the plunge and get rid of memorable items too.

Tell us the "conclusion"

In your heart, say goodbye to your ex-boyfriend, "Thank you for everything," and say goodbye. This is an important ritual that allows you to move forward without being trapped in the past.

Be grateful to your past self

You have experienced and grown up in past relationships. Express your gratitude and gratitude to your past self. Past experiences are an important element that shapes you as you are now.

Step 3: Find a new "light"

Once you say goodbye to the past, start a journey to find a new "light."

Make time to cherish yourself

Proactively create time to do what you like and relax. It is important to have time to eat delicious food, take a leisurely bath, listen to your favorite music, and give your mind and body a rest.

Start a new hobby or lesson

By trying new things, you can discover new things and encounters. Try out what you're interested in or want to try. New hobbies and lessons will change your mood and open up a new world.

Looking for new encounters

New encounters will heal your emotional wounds and expand the possibilities of new love. Get active in going out, attend events, and enjoy meeting new people.

Don't neglect to improve yourself

Improve your inner and outer appearance leads to confidence. It's good to enjoy makeup and fashion, or to read, study, and enrich your inner self. By improving yourself, you will be able to discover a new person.

Living cherishing the present

It is important to live your life without being bound by the past and cherishing the present. Focus on what's right in front of you and accumulate small happiness.

Oguri

My ex-boyfriend is so wonderful that I only look at the past, but I change my mind and move forward.

Step 4: Believe in the "after the rain" of your heart

It may take some time for the rain to stop. Sometimes it may start to rain again. Still, don't give up. The rain in my heart will always stop.

And after the rain, new light always shines through the clear sky. Don't rush, move slowly and at your own pace.

Finally, to you

Brown

You are never alone. Similarly, there are many people who suffer from past love.
I sincerely hope that you, as you read this article, will overcome the rain in your heart as soon as possible and discover new light.

And I believe that one day, we will come when we can smile gently in our hearts, as warm memories, of past love.
You're sure to be fine. The sky after the rain in my heart is sure to be even more beautiful than I imagined. Under that beautiful sky, you should find happiness for yourself. I'm rooting for you.

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