Anxiety - Tips for distinguishing between "good boyfriend" and "boyfriend who isn't"

For a sparkling future. How to find a "good boyfriend" with a gentle look

When you fall in love, your heart is thrilling. The time I spend with my beloved boyfriend is as happy as a dream, and every day seems to be rosy. But sometimes, love can bother us and make us uneasy. Especially when the other person is confused, "Are you really a good person for me?" it can get a stir.

This time, we will provide you with tips to help you identify a "good boyfriend" and a "boyfriend who isn't" from a gentle perspective, supporting your anxiety. Don't rush, but take your time and receive words that resonate with you.

Donbei

I'm a bad girl who falls in love with bad guys, I want to become an adult

Cherish your own sparkle, just like a jewel box

First of all, there is something you should remember. This means that you are an irreplaceable being, the only person in this world. You have so much charm and potential, just like a jewel box. So there's no need to try and change yourself just for someone else's sake, or force yourself to adapt to the other person.

Those who value you will surely love your brilliance as they are. Care for yourself is the first step towards a wonderful relationship. First, listen carefully to your own heart.

Green

I've refined myself so much that I don't have a man to match. Is this selfish lol

What kind of person is a "good boyfriend"? A gentle light that warms the heart

A "good boyfriend" is someone who warms your heart, just like the sun. Being together makes you feel calm and filled with peace of mind. He is such a kind person who gently wraps you around like a breeze.

Here are some specific features.

Someone who values ​​your heart

1. He listens to your words properly. There is no need to interrupt or make any unnecessary adjustments in the middle.
   
2. He always tries his best to understand your feelings. Even if you don't put it in words, they can sometimes tell you how you feel from your expressions and gestures.
   
3. They respect your opinions and ideas. I don't just ignore my thoughts and say, "That's not true," or force my thoughts on me.
   
4. They will try to understand your hobbies and values. Even if there are parts that I don't relate to, instead of denying them, they accept that they say, "That's the kind of idea that's what they think."
5. We respect your choices and do not force you. If you say you don't want to do it, you will respect it and never force it.

A person who will envelop you like the sun of spring

1. When you're in trouble, he'll always try to help you. They will ask you, "Is there anything I can do?" and gently snuggle up to you.
   
2. They will also notice small changes in you. When you look unwell or feel unwell, they will gently ask you, "What's wrong?"
   
3. He always watches your hard work. Even if it's a small thing, they praise you for doing well, which warms my heart.
   
4. It conveys gratitude through words and actions. Not only will you say "thank you" but they will also try to please you with gifts and surprises.
   
5. It will suit your pace. When you're tired, you don't force yourself to play and give you a relaxed rest.

Pon

I want to meet a wonderful man - don't get close to bad guys

A person who is bound by a strong bond called trust

1. He will always keep his promise. Even small promises are kept to you, so you can trust them with peace of mind.
2. I won't lie. It shows you honestly who you are.
   
3. You won't talk bad about you to other people. He always cared about you.
4. I won't hide anything from you. They talk about anything, so you'll be filled with peace of mind.
   
5. He always cared about you. They express love not only through words but through actions, so you can feel that you are loved.

People who can naturally smile when they are together

1. The conversation is fun and there is always a smile. You can have fun with common hobbies and topics, or laugh at trivial stories.
   
2. They value the time you spend together. Instead of just looking at your smartphone, you will truly enjoy your time with you.
   
3. He always tries to make you happy. They will tell you funny stories and organize dates, making you smile.
   
4. Seeing your smile makes you feel happier than anything else. Your smile will become the source of his energy.
   
5. Being with you will fill your heart. It feels like the puzzle pieces fit perfectly, and the heart is filled with excitement.

Someone who will truly support you in your growth

1. They will support you with all your dreams and goals. They encourage you by saying, "Good luck!" and give you the advice you need to achieve it.
   
2. They will delight you in your growth and share it together. He will please your success as if it were yours. It will guide you in the better. They will gently pay attention to the bad points and give you the opportunity to grow.
   
3. He believes in your potential. He always encourages me with positive words, "You can do it!"。
   
4. We will talk about the future with you. We will listen to your opinions on the future and think together.

People who can't take on a roller coaster of emotions

1. There is no one-sided anger or dissatisfaction. They will discuss things calmly and respect your feelings.
   
2. He doesn't get emotional and responds calmly. You don't just leave your emotions to yell or throw things.
   
3. I will never use words that hurt you. I will never say anything that will hurt your heart.
   
4. The waves of emotions are calm and provide a sense of security. I always feel stable, so staying with me makes me feel at ease.
   
5. You never do anything that makes you feel uneasy. It always makes you feel at ease.

Me

I was a former bad husband and I had a hard time, so I understand it - kind men are the best

Someone who can look at the future together

1. He will talk positively about your future with you. They will also listen to your opinions about marriage and children, and will think together.
   
2. It shows you working hard towards the future. You are working hard with goals, so you can be inspired and grow together.
   
3. Sharing your vision for the future will deepen your bond. By discussing each other's future plans, you can build a deeper relationship of trust.
   
4. It is because I take my future seriously with you that I value my current relationship. We spare no effort to maintain our relationship.
   
5. We respect you as a partner who will walk in the future. We can grow together while supporting each other's dreams and goals.

"Wait a minute!" Characteristics of "boyfriends who don't" who light a red light

A "boyfriend who doesn't" is a person who will stir your heart, like a storm. Being together can exhaust my heart and I feel constantly feeling anxious and unhappy. He is the kind of person who makes you feel anxious, like a dark road at night.

Hana

I often get hurt by this, notes, notes

Like a doll that will try to manipulate you with thread

1. They try to limit your behavior, dress, and friendships. They try to take away your freedom by saying things like, "Don't talk to other guys," or "That outfit is very revealing."
   
2. I will dismiss your opinions and ideas. You deny your thoughts and try to force your thoughts against them, saying things like, "That's not true," or "You don't know anything."
   
3. I'll try to make you jealous. They will deliberately get along with other women and act in ways that make you feel uneasy.
   
4. I treat you like my possession. They try to treat you in your own way, saying things like, "You belong to me," without respecting your wishes.
   
5. I'll always try to monitor you. They try to grasp your actions one by one or more, and force you to contact us.

People who cannot use magic, called compassion

1. I don't try to understand your feelings. I ignore your feelings by saying things like, "You're probably not thinking anything anyway."
   
2. It does not take into consideration your physical condition or convenience. Even if you're tired, you'll try to prioritize your own convenience.
   
3. I use words that hurt you without any worries. They use words that slander your appearance, such as "ugly" or "fat."
   
4. I only act selfishly. I try to act as I please without listening to your opinions。
   
5. Treat your feelings as if you were ignoring them. Do yourself a selfish act without thinking about your feelings.

People who easily destroy the bond of trust

1. Break your promises easily. He breaks his promise without any guilt, saying things like, "Sorry, I forgot."
2. I'll lie without any hesitation. When it's inconvenient, they immediately try to lie and deceive them.
3. Befriend other women. You try to get along with other women, knowing you'll hurt.
4. I'll do something hidden from you. There may be a lot of things you can't tell you.
5. It will easily betray your trust. I will act in a way that will betray you without any hesitation.

People who can't see the exit, like a dark tunnel

1. The conversation is not fun. The conversation doesn't last, and it's all boring, so it's not fun to be around.
   
2. There are no common topics and it always feels awkward. We can't understand each other, so we always feel a distance.
   
3. It will make you bored. When you talk, you keep looking at your smartphone or sigh.
   
4. Even if we are together, our hearts are not satisfied. It makes me feel like something is missing.
   
5. I don't try to cherish my time with you. I will do something that will waste my time with you.

Someone who tries to pluck your wings

1. Laugh at your dreams and goals. They will make fun of your dreams and goals by saying things like, "That's not possible" or "If you don't, then you should stop."
   
2. It will interfere with your efforts. You can get in the way or pull your legs while you're trying hard.
   
3. I'll just criticize you. They keep saying things that deny you, such as "You're no good" or "You can't do anything."
   
4. I will deny your possibility. "It's not possible for you anyway," he tries to steal your potential.
   
5. They don't try to grow you. It tries to get in the way of trying to grow.

Someone who will sway you on a roller coaster of emotions

1. You get angry or get mad at me right away. A small thing can quickly make you angry or get mad.
   
2. They hit things and engage in violence. When you get emotional, you can hit something or use violence against you.
   
3. I will taunt you. When you get angry, you will swear at you or say words that deny your personality.
   
4. I will act in a way that makes you feel uneasy. The waves of emotions are intense, and it always makes you feel anxious.
   
5. I won't say anything that will reassure you. I don't try to understand your feelings when I'm feeling anxious.

Someone who leaves all future plans to you

1. He won't talk about the future. They try to avoid future conversations, such as marriage or children.
   
2. Ignore your feelings about marriage and children. Instead of asking for your opinions, I only assert my own opinions.
   
3. They don't take responsibility for the relationship they are now because they don't take the future seriously. I'm not thinking seriously about my future with you.
   
4. I will only impose the burden on you. I'll try to leave everything to you in the future.
5. I live a sloppy life and feel no hope for the future. You may not have any plans for the future.

An important compass to distinguish

These features are merely a guideline. People's personalities are complicated and it is not possible to assume that they are "good" or "bad".。

What's important is your intuition.

If you feel that "being with this person calms your mind" or "this person cares me," then it's likely that you're a "good boyfriend" for you.。

On the other hand, if you feel that "being with this person makes me feel tired" or that "this person doesn't care about me", stop for a moment and think about it carefully.。

Follow the voice of your heart honestly. Don't rush, take your time, at your own pace, and at a wonderful magic that will color your life. But there's no need to rush and choose someone. Find the best partner for you, slowly and at your own pace. If you are currently struggling with love, don't take it on your own. Try talking to your trusted friends and family. It's sure to help you. I sincerely wish you happiness.

What did you think? I'd be happy if there's something that touches your heart at least a little. If you have any other concerns, please ask at any time.

Oguri

It was very helpful. She'll become a strong girl in love. lol

Shokey Hayashi

Exorcist/Radionics Technique Researcher

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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965, he has been suffering from troubles, illnesses and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena since childhood. However, one day, when he was 20 years old, he attended an event, had a mysterious experience at the venue, and was hit by lightning energy from the heavens, as if piercing the spinal cord from his brain, and his psychic abilities blossomed. He then began studying psychology and psychiatry, and now he has combined psychiatry and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics exorcism" using our own radionics techniques. "It's possible to treat your fortune" beyond exorcism, memorial service, and healing.