A gentle time that ties your heart - a story about love worries and inner child

The voice of the heart that overcomes love worries

"I end up having a similar relationship again..."
"I can't forget that time..."
Love is supposed to be full of excitement and joy, but sometimes you may be worried about why it's so painful. Perhaps the little "I" of the past is quietly hidden deep inside.

From birth, we grow up with many emotions and experiences. In particular, experiences from a young age can be deeply engraved in the foundations of the mind, and can have a major impact on life afterwards. This "you" who is still carrying memories and emotions from her childhood is sometimes called an "inner child."

The inner child is like a little girl who lives deep inside her heart. You are always watching over your mind gently, with all sorts of emotions, such as happy, fun, sad, scary, lonely.

If this inner child is hurt in a past relationship, the same patterns may occur in the current relationship, or in the same way, or in the same way as in a sense of anxiety and fear. It's as if past wounds are hindering your current love life.

But it's okay. By gently healing these inner children, you will be free from the troubles of love and feel genuine happiness.

Pon

I want to heal the little girl inside me.
Please let me know.

Step 1: Meet an inner child - Recognizing the small "me" in my heart

What is an inner child?

An inner child is a mental aspect that has been hurt or unfulfilled due to past childhood experiences.

In particular, lack of love, negative words, and traumatic experiences can have a major impact on the inner child.

Innerchildren can affect current behaviors and emotions because they carry the emotions and patterns of thought they were young.

For example, feelings that play negative in love, such as anxiety about being abandoned or the belief that you are not worthy of being loved, may also be the influence of inner children.

Gently trace past memories

Kindly remember what kind of environment you grew up in when you were a child, how did you have relationships with your parents and family, and how did you have friendships?

In particular, experiences such as not being able to fully feel affection, being showered with negative words, or not in a safe environment can have a major impact on the inner child.

You might also want to look at photos from that time and reread your diary.

If your painful memories are reviving and your heart is thrilled, don't push yourself too hard and take a break.

Notice the recurring love patterns

Let's take a look back at past love affairs.

Have you ever fallen in love with a similar type of man, or you end up in a similar pattern in a relationship?

For example, there may be certain patterns, such as "I always fall in love with a bad guy," "I become dependent on others," "I quickly become jealous," or "I end up doing everything I can."

These patterns may be related to scratches on the inner child.

Donbei

I was a little surprised. It's very similar to my love pattern. I need inner child healing

Step 2: Dialogue with the inner child - I'll listen to the voices of my heart

Next, try a gentle dialogue with the little "me" in your heart.

Imagine a little "me"

Close your eyes and imagine yourself as a young child.

1. What kind of expression does he have? What kind of clothes are you wearing? How do you feel?
2. It's also a good idea to use photos and memories from the time as a reference to create a more concrete image.
   
3. You might be a little nervous, but it's fine. Your kind feelings will surely reach you.

Talk to the little me

Let's talk gently to the young self you imagined.

Give me words of gratitude, such as, "It was tough," "You did a great job," or "It's okay now."

Please gently shout out as if you were hugging a little girl.

"You've worked so hard on your own up until now. You're not alone anymore," share your warm feelings with them.

Accepting the feelings of a small "me"

If your inner child expresses sadness, anger, fear, etc., don't deny it, but take it gently.

1. "That's how you felt," relate to them and empathize with them.
2. Innerchild wants to convey to you feelings that he has never told anyone before.
3. It is important to not suppress your emotions and to allow them to express themselves in peace.
   
4. If you feel tears flowing, don't force it to stop and just let it go. It is a purifying effect of the mind.

Step 3: Heal your inner child - gently wrapping your heart wounds

Finally, let's heal the inner child.

Develop self-esteem

Let's rewrite the inner child's belief that "I'm not worthy of being loved" into a positive sense of self-esteem.

1. Find a lot of good about you and praise it in words.
   
2. Look in the mirror and say kind words to yourself, "You're so cute today," and "You're doing great work."
3. It is also effective to remember past successful experiences and try new things.
   
4. Even small things can be done, so feel a lot of joy, "I did it!" and develop confidence.
5. Tell your inner child that you are great as is.

Time to spoil yourself

Let's fulfill a lot of what our inner children are looking for.

1. Eat delicious food, watch your favorite movie, take a leisurely rest, play to your heart's content... so do lots of things that will make your heart happy.
   
2. It's also a good idea to try out what you wanted to do and hold back when you were young.
   
3. Allow yourself to pamper yourself by saying, "Today is fine, isn't it?"
   
4. You can also wear cute clothes or add your favorite accessories to make your little girl happy.

Heal past wounds

Remember the painful experiences of the past and release your emotions.

1. Shed tears, express your sadness out loud, draw pictures, write, and let out the emotions in a way that suits you.
   
2. If you feel that you have a deep past trauma and you cannot bear it on your own, don't push yourself too hard and consider seeking professional counseling.
   
3. Our mental experts will provide gentle support to heal your emotional wounds.

Forgive your past self

Stop blaming your past choices and actions from the current perspective.

1. You must have been working hard at the time.
   
2. By understanding and forgiveing ​​yourself at that time, you will be able to move forward into the future without being bound by the past.
   
3. Tell your past self "thank you" and gently hug them.

Step 4: A step towards a new love story - Listen to your heart's voice -

Once your inner child is healed, take a step towards a new relationship.

Listen to the voice of my heart

Listen carefully to see what kind of love your inner child is looking for.

1. If you are looking for peace of mind, choose a kind and inclusive partner, and if you have a strong desire for approval, choose a partner who will say positive words.
   
2. Follow the voice in your heart honestly saying, "I want to have a relationship like this."

Draw healthy boundaries

Stop being too dependent on others or being too dependent on them.

1. Care for your feelings and needs and build a relationship that is not too strong.
   
2. Don't be afraid to say "NO."
   
3. It is very important to protect your own heart.

Fill yourself with love

In the process of healing your inner child, fill yourself with love to the fullest.

1. By accepting and cherishing yourself as you are, you will be able to receive love from others.
2. By loving yourself, you will be able to have a more independent relationship.
   
3. "I love me," repeat in your heart over and over again.
   
4. You are a wonderful person worthy of being loved.

Other tips for gentle cuddles

By focusing on meditation, mindfulness, and the moment, you can stay calm and not be caught up in past trauma.

1. Journaling and writing out your own emotions and thoughts will help you to gain a deeper understanding of your inner self and organize your inner self.
2. Through art therapy, music therapy and expression, you can release and heal unspeakable emotions.
3. Getting trustworthy people to listen to, and having friends, family, or professional counselors listen can make you feel better.

What's important

The healing of an inner child is something you will need to take your time and take your time to relax. Don't rush, don't blam yourself, but please be kind and be with your side.
If you are in a state of pain, don't just take it on your own and get the help of a professional. There will always be someone who will listen to your heart.

Love worries aren't just for you. There are many people who are suffering the same problem.
So, please don't just take it on your own, but please relax your inner child slowly and at your own pace.

And one day, please have a happy, heart-warming relationship.
I sincerely hope that your future will be filled with love and joy.

Shokey Hayashi

Exorcist/Radionics Technique Researcher

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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965, he has been suffering from troubles, illnesses and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena since childhood. However, one day, when he was 20 years old, he attended an event, had a mysterious experience at the venue, and was hit by lightning energy from the heavens, as if piercing the spinal cord from his brain, and his psychic abilities blossomed. He then began studying psychology and psychiatry, and now he has combined psychiatry and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics exorcism" using our own radionics techniques. "It's possible to treat your fortune" beyond exorcism, memorial service, and healing.