Freeing from human relationships - how to let go of qi fatigue - the energy of the mind

The problem of "tiring relationships" - how do we overcome this?

In our daily lives, we live constantly in our interactions with others. Our relationships range from family, friends, colleagues, neighbors, to strangers connected via social media.

These relationships enrich our lives, bring joy and stimulation, but sometimes lead to great stress and fatigue. In particular, the "ki fatigue" that many people experience is different from mere physical fatigue, and is deeply exhausting our minds and emotions.

The fatigue in human relationships is like a bottomless swamp

It gradually takes away our energy and disrupts our body and mind. Even if you may seem to maintain smooth communication on the surface, if you are constantly caring for it inside and become sensitive to the other person's emotions and reactions, you will become exhausted without you realizing it.

Some relationships allow you to maintain a moderate sense of distance, while others require you to always be extremely careful and try not to get the other person in a good mood.

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When they pile up, we run out of energy in our minds, and we even lose the energy to do anything, just like we've run out of battery.

For example, try to remember your interactions with colleagues and bosses at work. In order to smoothly carry out daily work, it is essential to cooperate and respect each other. However, there may be some who only advocate their own opinions, always acting in a bad mood, or they may impose responsibility on them.

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Communication with people is a more emotional burden than you imagined.

Emotional clashes and misunderstandings can occur between family members, as parents, or children, as individuals, as positions and roles.

Even when you are in a relationship with a friend, you may be able to hide your true self by constantly adjusting to the other person or being too careful.

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Neighborhood relationships require a certain degree of cooperation as a member of the local community, but sometimes this can be an undue burden.

These relationships themselves are essentially important to us, and there should be a sense of joy and security there. However, for some reason, on the way home, we sometimes sigh deeply, "I'm really tired today...", and the moment we are left alone, we sometimes feel an indescribable fatigue.

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Chronic mental fatigue can have a negative effect

We lose our own emotional liberty and can have a negative impact on our relationships with our precious family and friends. You can get irritated, emotional, or, conversely, feel nothing more than a small thing.

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So, what exactly is "ki-tiring"? Why do we become so tired in relationships? This is deeply related to our personality, our way of thinking, and our energy exchange in relationships.

It is generally said that people who are prone to fatigue have several common characteristics. It's something like this:

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He is good at insight into other people's feelings and emotions: he tends to be sensitive to the emotions of those around him and try to be close to those people's feelings.

If you have a strong desire to be happy with the other person, you will feel tired.

If there are people in trouble, I can't leave them alone, and I have a strong desire to help them somehow.

1. He has a strong sense of responsibility and is serious about everything: he tries to properly fulfill his roles and responsibilities and is unable to slacking off corners.
   
2. They tend to read the atmosphere too much, and they are sensitive to the surrounding situation and atmosphere, and try to make words and actions appropriate for the situation.
   
3. In relationships, we tend to prioritize meeting the expectations of others: we tend to prioritize meeting the expectations of others over our own feelings, and take self-sacrificing behavior.
   
4. People with these characteristics are often referred to as "highly sensitive persons," "HSPs (Highly Sensitive Persons)," or "empaths."
   
5. HSPs are naturally very sensitive nervous systems and tend to react sensitively to their surroundings and to other people's emotions.

Empaths is the ability to feel others' emotions as if they were their own.

Empathic traits are not bad at all, but are extremely important for people to feel caring and security. However, due to his delicateness, he unconsciously absorbs the energy around him and consumes excessively his own energy.

Heavy energy and fatigue of "ki" - a deep dive from an energy perspective

1. As the word "ki" in the word "ki" indicates, this phenomenon is deeply related to the exchange of invisible energy. Every day, we are exposed to not only good energy, but also negative energy. A calm atmosphere and pleasant mood brings us energy and healing, but at the same time, heavy, sinking energy such as anxiety, anger and sadness also affect our minds.
   
2. In workplaces and in public places, diverse energy is released from a wide range of people. The mixing of these things can cause us to feel something like "somehow unsettling" or "momentalising".

There are various types of energy.

Some energy is bright and vibrant, others are heavy and gloomy, or aggressive. We are able to heal and rejuvenate by exposure to calm and relaxing energy, but if we continue to be exposed to energy that involves anxiety and stress for a long time, both our body and mind will become exhausted.

In particular, people called HSPs and empaths are extremely sensitive to the energy and emotions emitted by others. It absorbs the energy around you like a sponge, making it easy to be on a roller coaster of emotions all the time.

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Not only can you read other people's words and expressions, but also the emotions behind them instantly, so you end up working harder than necessary to meet the other person's expectations, and you'll be exhausted.

Furthermore, modern society is overloaded with information and is constantly exposed to various stimuli. It is also possible that through social media and news, we are exposed to other people's emotions and events, which are unconsciously draining our energy.

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Especially when you continue to get exposed to negative information or emotions, you can become exhausted as if you were experiencing it yourself.

To overcome this situation, it is important to first recognize that "I may have HSP or empathy characteristics," and accept them. Self-understanding is the first step to reducing fatigue and the first step to taking care of yourself.

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Freeing from fatigue - Two keys and concrete practices

In order to reduce fatigue and build healthier relationships, you need to be aware of two keys: self-understanding and energy balance.

1. The importance of self-understanding and concrete practice

Self-understanding is the most important factor in overcoming fatigue. First, you need to objectively understand your personality and traits and understand why you are tired. People who tend to be HSPs and empaths tend to be constantly tense because they are more likely to empathize with others' emotions and are sensitive to the surrounding situation.

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Self-analysis: Start by analyzing yourself objectively.

By keeping a diary or taking a self-analysis test, you can understand your own thoughts and behavioral patterns.

It is also important to recognize your own emotions and to recognize your own emotions.

By being aware of what kind of emotions you will be having at what time and how you will be, you can identify the triggers of your emotions.

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It is also important to bear to yourself and to take care of yourself.

If you feel tired, try not to overdo it and take a break. Have some time to relax, listen to your favorite music, take a bath, or relax.

Separating yourself from others and it is also important to be aware that "other people's emotions belong to others."

Instead of being swayed by the other person's emotions, cherish your own emotions. Just because others are depressed doesn't mean you have to force yourself to be healthy.

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2. How to balance energy and specific practices

In order to balance energy, it is essential to have a sense of "drawing boundaries." The more sensitive people, the more empathize and accept other people's feelings and situations that are more than necessary. Therefore, it becomes important to consciously "not bring the other person's energy into you."

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Draw boundaries and be conscious of drawing healthy boundaries between people.

It is important to recognize that other people's problems are other people's problems and not your own fault.

It is also important to release energy and release the negative energy you feel in an appropriate way, rather than storing it in accumulating it. By focusing on exercise, meditation, hobbies, etc., you can refresh your mind and body.

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Make space and make space in your mind. By being alone and facing yourself in a quiet space, you will be able to reset your mind and gain a sense of being separated from the energy of others.

Touching nature, walking in nature, and expose yourself to sunlight in the park

It can refresh both your body and mind. The energy of nature helps us heal and energize us.

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Fill yourself - It's important to first take care of yourself. Try to fulfill yourself by doing what you love and eating delicious food. By fulfilling yourself, you will also be able to be kind to others.

Steps and practical guidelines for conduct that will help you create a life that will not tire you out

Here are three practical steps to let go of your fatigue and live more self-aware and more comfortably.

1. Keep a moderate distance from others and be conscious of drawing healthy boundaries between yourself and others. It is important to be aware that "don't put everything in hand." Try to maintain your own pace without forcing yourself to fit in with the other person or being swayed by their emotions.
   
2. Make self-care your top priority and make conscious time to cherish your mind and body. By eating healthy, getting enough sleep and moderate exercise, you can restore energy. It is also important to have time to relax for yourself.
   
3. Live your own way. Don't be bound by the expectations and evaluations of others, prioritize what you want and what you want to be. Acting based on your values ​​and goals will help you live a more fulfilling life.

Summary: Let go of your fatigue and create a life that is unique to you

Letting go of fatigue is not something you can do overnight. It is an ongoing process of facing yourself, deepening your self-understanding, and consciously changing your behavior in your daily life. However, by calming your mind and making time to face yourself, the situation will gradually improve. Our daily choices ultimately change the quality of our lives.

From now on, let's take care of ourselves and build calm and balanced relationships. Taking care of yourself is never selfish. Rather, only by fulfilling oneself can care for others.

This is the most important step towards creating happiness for yourself and building better relationships with those around you. Let's live a rich life by pursuing a way of life that is unique to us and building better relationships.

Shokey Hayashi

Exorcist/Radionics Technique Researcher

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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965, he has been suffering from troubles, illnesses and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena since childhood. However, one day, when he was 20 years old, he attended an event, had a mysterious experience at the venue, and was hit by lightning energy from the heavens, as if piercing the spinal cord from his brain, and his psychic abilities blossomed. He then began studying psychology and psychiatry, and now he has combined psychiatry and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics exorcism" using our own radionics techniques. "It's possible to treat your fortune" beyond exorcism, memorial service, and healing.