The trap of empathy, true kindness, and the recommendation of independence support that opens up the possibilities of yourself and others

Living in the centre - Liberation from bad indications

In our daily lives, we encounter a variety of people and encounter various events. What kind of reaction do we respond when we see the suffering and difficulties of others? In many cases, you probably feel like you want to do something about it or help it. In particular, people with a higher level of empathy are more likely to feel that other people's problems are their own and actively try to solve them. However, that well-intentioned action does not necessarily lead to the best outcome for the other person. Rather, excessive goodwill can even hinder the other person's independence and deprive them of opportunities for growth.

In this article, we will delve deeper into the "empathy traps" that people with high empathy are likely to fall into, and consider the mechanisms and specific countermeasures. Furthermore, we will explore what true kindness is and what support independence is to maximize the potential of the other person, using concrete examples. Finally, we will re-recognise the importance of self-growth, provide tips to help you face yourself and open up possibilities.

1. The light and shadow of the brain and empathy that makes you think of the other person as you

Empathy is an essential ability to facilitate relationships and enrich social life. By understanding and empathizing with others' emotions, we can live our lives working together and supporting each other. However, when we are too empathetic, we can be swallowed up by the other person's emotions, blurring the line between ourselves and others.

This is deeply related to the function of the brain. According to research in brain science, when we observe the behavior and emotions of others, neurons called "mirror neurons" are activated in our brains. Mirror neurons recreate the same activity in the brain, as if they were experiencing their actions and emotions. In other words, seeing someone suffering makes us feel like we are suffering ourselves, and we are driven to somehow get rid of that suffering.

This mechanism works in the same way when you are slandering others. The brain is difficult to distinguish between talking bad about others or talking about themselves, and the person who is talking bad about them is also influenced by negative emotions.

People with high empathy are more active in the mirror neurons, which makes them more likely to feel the emotions of others and are more likely to think of them as themselves. This is why they view the other person's problem as if it were their own, and unconsciously act to help them.

2. The danger of excessive goodwill and the shackles of overprotection that hinder independence

At first glance, the desire to help someone seems beautiful. However, you need to be aware that such good will can hinder the other person's independence and deprive them of opportunities for growth. In particular, as overprotective parents do with their children, to resolve the other person's problems in advance or provide excessive assistance can damage the other person's independence and instill a sense of dependence.

For example, consider a case where people who are struggling with money can easily hand over money. Those who receive the money may help temporarily, but this does not lead to fundamental problems solving. Rather, receiving money may become commonplace and you may end up neglecting your own efforts to earn money. Furthermore, you may become more dependent on people who will give you money, and you may become more dependent on them.

This applies to other cases as well. For example, constantly helping a colleague who is not doing well at work or doing work instead can deprive them of opportunities for growth and lead to loss of confidence. Also, helping out everything because you are afraid of your partner's failure can damage your partner's independence and reduce your self-esteem.

Too much good will may be temporary relief for the other person, but in the long run, it becomes a hindrance to the other person's growth and independence.

3. What is true kindness? The courage to believe in and watch over others' possibilities

So, what is true kindness? This is not just about helping the other person easily, but about believing in their potential and encouraging them to become independent. In other words, instead of simply reaching out when the other person faces difficulties, the focus should be on supporting them so that they can find a solution.

For example, true kindness can be said to be true kindness by teaching people who are struggling with money how to make money instead of giving them money. Also, giving tips and advice on problem solving to colleagues who are not at work is important in fostering their growth. Furthermore, rather than helping a partner with fear of failure, it is essential to fostering independence, to give them the opportunity to learn from their failures and to support them in accumulating success experiences.

True kindness comes from having the courage to believe in and watch over the other person's potential. It is most important to encourage others to grow and develop independence, to provide opportunities to learn from their mistakes, and to support them in accumulating success.

4. The importance of self-growth: Make yourself shine and become a light that illuminates your surroundings

To help and support others, you first need to be satisfied. In other words, if you neglect your own growth and are unstable, it can be said that it is difficult to truly help others.

Self-growth is not just about acquiring knowledge and skills. It involves facing yourself, understanding your strengths and weaknesses, controlling your emotions, reducing stress, and maintaining a healthy state of mind and body.

By continuing to grow ourselves, we can be confident and calmly deal with difficult situations. Furthermore, you can understand problems from an objective perspective and provide appropriate advice and support without being swayed by the emotions of others. Furthermore, by shining yourself, you can light up and have a positive impact on those around you.

There are many ways to continue to grow yourself. Reading, taking part in seminars, starting a new hobby, meditating, exercising, traveling, and participating in volunteer activities can also lead to personal development. The key is to find something you truly enjoy and continue.

By continuing to grow ourselves, we will lead a richer life and be able to have a positive impact on others.

5. Liberate from negative suggestions, raise self-esteem and open up possibilities

We receive a variety of negative indications in our daily lives. Negative indications like "I can't do it for me," "I'll fail anyway," or "I'm lonely" deprive us of our confidence, suppress our actions, and close our possibilities.

To be free from these negative suggestions, you need to increase your self-esteem. Self-esteem is the feelings of acknowledging one's worth and assessing one's own positive attitude. People with high self-esteem will be able to actively challenge difficult situations, continue to grow themselves without fear of failure.

There are many ways to increase self-esteem. First, develop the habit of acknowledging your own good points and praising them. Also, look back on your past successful experiences and regain your confidence. Additionally, by setting and achieving goals, you can experience a sense of accomplishment and increase your self-efficacy. Then, receive words of gratitude from those around you and recognize your worth.

The "how to solve bad suggestions" introduced in the text is also a type of affirmation that can be expected to have the effect of rewriting self suggestions. It's definitely worth trying when you're trapped in negative emotions.

By increasing self-esteem, we are relieved of negative indications and allow us to act with confidence. And by believing in your potential and actively taking on the challenge, you can open up new paths and create a rich life.

6. Follow your intuition and live your own life, a compass for a bright future

We tend to think that it is always right to judge and act rationally. But intuition is a valuable source of information based on the knowledge and experience we have unconsciously accumulated. By following our intuition, we sometimes can find novel ideas and solutions that we cannot think of with reason.

To follow your intuition, you first need to listen to your own inner voice. Through meditation and yoga, calm your mind, ward off any distractions, and create a state that is more likely to accept your intuition. Also, in your daily life, be proactive in what you feel comfortable with and hone your intuition.

By following our intuition and living our own lives, we become more creative and have more freedom in our thinking. And you can unlock your full potential and create a bright future.

Summary: Use the power of empathy to color the world with true kindness

We have an incredible ability to empathize. However, if empathy goes too far, the line between you and others will become blurred, and it can hinder the other person's independence. We must not forget that true kindness lies in trusting the other person's potential and encouraging independence.

By continuing to grow and making ourselves shine, we can lighten up and have a positive impact on those around us. By being freed from negative indications, following our intuition and living our own lives, we become creative and have free ideas.

Use the power of empathy to color the world with true kindness and bring out the full potential of yourself and others, and use the ideas and advice presented in this article to create a richer life.

Shokey Hayashi

Exorcist/Radionics Technique Researcher

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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965, he has been suffering from troubles, illnesses and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena since childhood. However, one day, when he was 20 years old, he attended an event, had a mysterious experience at the venue, and was hit by lightning energy from the heavens, as if piercing the spinal cord from his brain, and his psychic abilities blossomed. He then began studying psychology and psychiatry, and now he has combined psychiatry and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics exorcism" using our own radionics techniques. "It's possible to treat your fortune" beyond exorcism, memorial service, and healing.