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The shadow of "soft old man" creeping up quietly
In recent years, the term "soft geriatric malfunction" has quietly yet certainly gained a presence in our society. This term is not merely a trendy term, but includes the complexity of human relationships in modern society, discrepancies in values between generations, and important questions about the way communication is done. This concept, proposed by broadcast writer Suzuki Osamu, overturns the image of the traditional term "oldness" and gives us an opportunity to reconsider our actions and thoughts from a deeper and broader perspective.
The difference between traditional "oldering" and "soft old age"
The invisible negative effect of the word "oldering" itself is probably what many people understand. It literally refers to the "harmful effects of old age," and has been used in corporate and political organizations where older people stick to past glory, take arrogant attitude, and apply unnecessary pressure on those around them. However, the problem that this term refers to is not necessarily limited to the elderly. The concept of "soft geriatric malnutrition," which has gained particular attention in recent years, suggests a more sensitive, less recognizable problem that many people, regardless of age or position, may fall into.。
Traditional "oldering" behavior was relatively clear and easy to recognize by those around them. For example, the sight of people continuing to talk about past heroic stories, taking their own rules of experience absolute, not listening to others' opinions at all, or treating subordinates and juniors excessively harshly is a typical example of "oldering" in their lives. These behaviors can not only discomfort to those around you, but can also significantly reduce the productivity and morale of the entire organization. However, unlike these "olderings," soft-aged erosions are characterized by their appearance of friendly and friendly attitudes, making them difficult for those around them to notice.
Behavioral patterns of "soft geriatric injury"
The troublesome thing about "soft elders" who are imposed on the mask of good intentions is that their actions are not necessarily based on malicious intentions.
In many cases, the person is intended to be in good faith or behave in the interest of the other person, but as a result, they do not realize that they are causing discomfort or putting a mental strain on the other person.
For example, a case where young employees repeatedly talk about their past successful experiences, such as "this was what they used to be," and try to force them on them can be considered a typical example of "soft geriatric malfunction."
At first glance, it may seem like he is giving advice with a kind attitude, but in reality he is simply imposing his own values on him, rather than taking into consideration the other person's situation or needs. Also, excessive interference or attempting to enter into private spheres with the words "I'm saying this for you" as a pillow, can be said to be a typical behavioral pattern of "soft geriatric dysfunction."
"Soft Aging" in Communication
Factors that create invisible friction Furthermore, "soft aging" has more complex problems in communication situations.
This occurs when not only the superficial meaning of words, but also the intentions, emotions, and nonverbal communication factors behind them interact with each other.
For example, there are cases where people say, "I see, I understand your opinions well," but in reality they don't listen to the other person's opinions at all, or they act like "I sympathize with them," but instead disregard the other person's thoughts inside.
This superficial empathy can actually lead to distrust and hinder communication.
Psychological distance error
Between "too close" and "too far", "soft aging" has a major impact on how we perceive psychological distance.
The closer you are, the more you may interfere with the other person or invade the other person's territory. This problem can be more pronounced in very close relationships, such as family, lovers, and best friends.
For example, giving detailed instructions on the other person's actions as they are good, or excessive contact because they are worried can create a sense of constraint and stress for the other person, and can also lead to worsening the relationship. However, for the person, this kind of behavior is often a form of expression of affection, and the gap between the intention and the outcome makes the problem even more complicated.
On the other hand, if the psychological distance is too far, it also becomes a problem in communication. If you lack consideration for the other person, act coldly or feel indifferent to the other person's emotions, the other person will feel alienated and it will be difficult to communicate smoothly.
Especially in places where a certain degree of intimacy is required, such as in the workplace, maintaining an appropriate sense of distance is extremely important in building smooth relationships. An ideal psychological distance refers to the extent that each person can communicate comfortably while respecting the other person, avoiding excessive interference.
To avoid becoming "soft elders"
Self-awareness and flexible attitude How can we avoid this "soft old age"?
First and foremost, it is always important to look at yourself objectively and consciously think about how your actions and actions are affecting others.
In particular, if you experience past success or stick to your own values too much, your vision will be narrowed and it will be difficult to consider the other person's situation and needs. Therefore, it is important to always be flexible and make an effort to embrace new information and ways of thinking.
The key to good communication
Understanding, respect, integrity and communication, it is essential to first try to understand the other person.
Naturally, gaps in generations and differences in values exist, and it is important to respect and accept them rather than denying them.
To do this, it is important to try to understand not only the other person's words, but also the emotions and intentions behind them. Paying attention to not only superficial words but also nonverbal messages and being close to the other person's emotions leads to smooth communication.
And excessive reluctance and hardship to flatter them do not necessarily produce good results. Respect for the other person is important, but if this goes too far, it can actually make them feel uncomfortable or dishonest. The important thing is to carefully consider the other person's position and situation, and then express your own opinions honestly. When doing this, it is important to be humble and listen to the other person's opinions.
Appropriate psychological distancing
A balance between intimacy and respect Furthermore, in order to avoid falling into "soft old age," it is important to maintain an appropriate psychological sense of distancing.
This applies not only to specific partners, but also to close relationships such as family, friends, and lovers.
- The closer you are, the more likely you are to think you understand each other better, but in fact, this is not the case. Respect the other person and be careful not to interfere too much, and you can maintain a good relationship.
- If the psychological distance is too far, each person's feelings may not be conveyed well, and misunderstandings may overlap, leading to a cold relationship. Therefore, it is important to maintain an appropriate sense of distance depending on your relationship with the other person. If you try to force yourself to close the distance, it can actually worsen the relationship, so be careful.
summary
Human relationships should be simple in nature for healthy relationships. Regardless of your age or position, you will need to create an environment where you can interact with each other without pushing too hard.
And what is needed to do this is humility, integrity, and the ability to identify a comfortable sense of distance in communication. Ultimately, the biggest secret to avoiding being "soft old age" is to always maintain an attitude of caring for others rather than being selfish. And this mindset is the key to building healthy relationships across generations and ages.
We should view the term "soft geriatric elders" as a mirror for self-reflection, not merely labeling. And, using these words as a catalyst to implement actions to build better relationships, should lead to our own growth.
The concept of "soft aging" will play a very important role in modern society in order to improve communication skills, which are becoming increasingly important, and to build a society where each other can respect each other.
By deep understanding of this concept and being aware of it in our daily lives, we should be able to build richer human relationships and create a better society. With this awareness, we need to walk towards a better future.
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Born in Aomori Prefecture in 1965, he has been suffering from troubles, illnesses and injuries caused by spiritual phenomena since childhood. However, one day, when he was 20 years old, he attended an event, had a mysterious experience at the venue, and was hit by lightning energy from the heavens, as if piercing the spinal cord from his brain, and his psychic abilities blossomed. He then began studying psychology and psychiatry, and now he has combined psychiatry and consciousness engineering. Established "Radionics exorcism" using our own radionics techniques. "It's possible to treat your fortune" beyond exorcism, memorial service, and healing.
